Coincidence.....or what?

This is something that happened recently and I decided to post about it after waiting a week because I had only shared it with a few close friends.


Two Fridays ago (Friday November 14th) I was talking with a co-worker/friend from one of my PRN locations that I help out on the weekends. We were just standing, giggling and talking at my front door as she picked up her tickets for an event that she was attending that weekend. We ended up standing and talking for about an hour and I had homework to do since I knew that I had a full weekend with events.

We were laughing and just talking normal stuff and she was updating me on some of the patients that I was scheduled to see on that weekend since she is the Rehab manager at one of the locations that I assist on weekends. Some how we got on the conversation of adoption because we were discussing a patient and I told her that I had shared with 2 patients that I was working with the previous weekend that I was adopting after one of the patients shared that he had an adopted grandson from China.
I mentioned that I was adopting a child and the almost 85 year old female patient clearly asked me why was I adopting and did I have any children. I told her no and she followed up basically saying that adoption is wonderful and I would be blessed by it and had much more to say. It was an interesting conversation.


My friend knew that I was adopting but she was not for sure if I was adopting an infant or a toddler. After I told her that we were adopting an infant, she shared a situation with us. She told us that they had an acquaintance through the girl scout troop that she and her sister work with. They just recently found out from the person that she is expecting a baby.


One of the mothers who is her age (late twenties) is expecting her 4th child in a few months and has been trying to find a way for someone to adopt her child. She has even asked my friend if she could adopt the child or if she knew of anyone. The mother has 3 other children according to my friend and she states that she can not afford another child and would like for the child to be adopted. She does not have any support from her family, however, the family does not want her to give this child up for adoption.


The mother would like for it to be a semi-open adoption because she would like for the child to know that he or she has other siblings, which is understandable. Then I went into the whole thing about adoption is not co-parenting and semi-open to my husband and I means that we are raising this child as our own, however, we are willing to have some contact with the birth family with any adoption that we do, but it will be on terms that we are comfortable with.


I immediately asked if the mother was healthy and what was her mental state etc. She told me that she is educated, healthy and has beautiful, healthy children, but she can not afford to raise another child. She currently has 3 of them living in a one bedroom apartment with her. While she may not be in poverty, it just may be too much of a strain on the individual to keep things up.


I told my friend to tell the mother that she could call some agencies if she is really serious about adoption and they will work with her, but I guess she was trying to do it on her own, and really didn't know what to do. I gave my friend the name of some local adoption agencies to give to the young lady when she sees her again. At the time, I didn't feel one way or the other about the situation and I was not led to do anything but give agency information to be given to her to assist.


I kind of forgot about it and mentioned it to my husband the following morning and he immediately said that it is something that we needed to pray on and ask for guidance because he didn't know why we were presented with this situation right on our door steps.
He said, if this is the child that God wants us to have, then we will be shown one way or the other. He stated to keep working with the agency as we are since things have progressed quickly, and if something happens otherwise, we will know. If we are led to go this way as a private adoption, then we will use the adoption attorney that close friends of ours used to have every thing taken care of.


I mentioned the situation to a very close friend of mine and she said that she had chills when I told her because she had a situation to happen similar with one of her adoptions. I had never been presented with a situation like this or heard of anyone near me or in contact with me that would like to give their child up for adoption, so it was not just a random act in my eyes. I blew it off like it was a coincidence because I have to know that God is speaking to me before I move with anything like this. I just wasn't for sure the purpose of the contact with me. Maybe I was a source for the adoption agency. I don't know.


I spoke with another friend today, and I shared it with her since we are going through our adoption process together. She also stated that sometimes it is Divine intervention and we will just have to be patient and prayerful about the situation presented. In other words, for me not to blow it off like it was just a coincidence, because some things are ordered by God and we do not even see it.


I just thought that I would share the situation with a few others. I will update any news on this situation if needed.