So, this is where we are. Now, we are talking to our SW about twice a week due to the events taking place. She called us mid week to ask us could we bring in 2 copies of our profile this coming week because our profile will be shown to a potential family with a due date coming up soon. I did not panic and I did not become excited because "it is what it is" until everything is final. I did not even ask what the gender was! I listened to the information that she had and I agreed to bring it in.
Being that I was sick last week, we did not have an opportunity to get it printed and we were not able to send the final product to the agency last week. She was unaware that I was severely ill until she called because she did not talk to me towards the end of last week. So, I told her that I would bring in the copies this week in person since I am home all of this week. They will be showing the birth family profiles at the end of this coming week or the early portion of the following week.
This forced us to get it out of our hands this week since we have been preoccupied with designing the pages and making sure that everything is in there that needs to be.
We have also been in contact with another agency that has a lot of placements regularly with much shorter wait periods and with more situations. They came highly recommended as well by other AP's who went with them.
We will move forward with them if these particular situations do not work out with our current agency. We felt like we have given ourselves a fair amount of time with our current agency. So, we established a particular time that we would move forward with someone else if things did not work out or they did not have more situations.
A close friend of mine told me on Friday when we were talking about what is going on and she said, " It's already done". God has chosen the child for us, and now we just have to wait and see which child it is by going through these final processes. We are truly practicing discernment with this and not attaching ourselves to any situation due to being anxious and impatient, until we know and feel that it is the child that God wants for us. I believe that we will truly know and feel a sense of peace and fulfillment when it is the right situation.
This is all that I am able to share at this point regarding our potential placements.I will try to update what I can when I can on our process that we are going through now.
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I agree with your friend...God already knows who your child is and he will lead you to him/her in His time. Trust and patience can be hard when you want something so badly. I pray for you often and I am so excited for you. :)
Thanks Nevididi,
please continue to keep me in your prayers! This is really the hard part. It is not like we are going to a cabbage patch. We are making a life time decision that requires, prayer, patience and discernment on our end. Thanks for stopping by.
How is baby girl doing?
She is doing good. They are doing her full developmental evaluation this week to see if she qualifies for any speech therapy...Part of me doesn't want her to, but the other part wants her to so she can catch up. I made an appointment for a second opinion so we will see what that doctor says and maybe he will agree with me. :) Adoption has always been on my heart since I was in Junior High. It think its such an amazing thing, but also one of the hardest on both families parts. I've been playing around in photoshop lately just to see what its all about, but I have no idea how to use it so I just hit buttons to see what happens lol
What cute little stuffed animals you have posted. Wow, sounds exciting. Can you create a webpage with your profile, or is this what you guys are referring to?
Soror, Like me, guard your heart until the LORD speaks HIS peace. I'm so excited for you two as you all have been on my mind and in my heart. Keeping you and hubby before the LORD until your child is in your arms...and know that YOU ARE TRULY BLESSED!
PS...gotta chat via e-mails or telephone because this blog-talk stuff is fine and all, but um, it's not a vine :) (smiling).
Hey Nevidid,
Keep me posted. You can send me an email like you did before if you have any further concerns. Services can only help her. If you wait 2 years, it will be a bigger problem. You know what I mean. Let me know how the evaluation goes. You can hit me via email. Best Wishes with everything.
Yes, I have wanted to adopt since I was a little girl. The seed was planted very early.
Angela,
the stuff animals have been on the side bar since June I believe.
The profile is a basically a background story on you and hubby with pictures that describe you both, individually, your desire to adopt, your family, pictures of our home, family events, holidays etc. You can make it into a book or some people just insert pictures into a document. They can become very elaborate. It is the document birth families look at to look.
Many can make a decision by the profile alone and do not want to meet in person. Some people set up websites also but it is not necessary with our agency, but this paper profile is a requirement that all agencies require domestically so that they can show the potential family. It is just a more in depth version of what you will have to do for Ethiopia. I think we only had to send like specified pictures of our home and us, but it wasn't as detailed as our current profile book.
Our profile book is set up magazine style and my husband designed each page and it is being printed on high quality durable paper that is not thin. You can get the profiles bound and made into a book or just print out the pages. It easier to me to the extra time to have them printed and secured in some sort of scrapbook if they are not bound.
Different people do it different ways, but presentation means a lot to us both, so people are going to expect a little more from us, because that is just who we are. I am going to go above and beyond with anything that I do that represents me. This is the first document that someone will see of us. First impressions are lasting
I will take pictures of ours and share on the blog when we are finished with our process. I have to take 2 copies/2 books in this week to the agency.
Hi Soror E.,
Thank you for your prayers and support as usual. Yes, I am very guarded and I am sure that you can tell. I hope that I do not feel cold to anyone, but domestic is a little different. We are totally relying on God to get is through this final phase.
Yes, I feel you with the blogs. Sometimes I am on it and sometimes I am not.
Email me at my email address that is listed on the side of the main blog page. I actually get a lot of emails there and have connected with some wonderful mom's who have been so helpful during my progress and wanted to send me personal emails. I check it daily and we can exchange information from there and I can update you on things and I can find out about princess.
I totally feel you. For the most part, I will probably be making a new blog very soon on a different site where I can control things a little better with who can see what.
I didn't want to close this one and make it private because it is a promise that I made because I learned so much from others before we started the process. However, for the next chapter, I will be going a different route in terms of blogging. I will keep you posted. So, for all of the lurkers who follow, hopefully, they will speak up or comment so that I will have their information so that I can invite them to the new one.
Prayers for you! God does have your sweet child picked out, and we have to be patient to see! Hugs & Good luck. You are on my prayer list along eith our birth family.
Thank you so much Ali. I really appreciate it. I know that you can truly relate. I hope that all is well with you. Send me an email to let me know how you are doing. I have been thinking about you too. Please continue to keep us on your prayer list, we definitely need it.
I've been thinking about you. Your attitude is great. It will get you through this process until your child is revealed to you.
Pat
Hi Pat,
Thanks. This has been a journey, but we are hanging in there. I know that your daughter and son are keeping you busy. I am off this week on vacation. Send me an email or call when you are not busy to let me know how Addison and Solomon are doing. We need to seriously get together as soon as this final process is completed. Thanks again for checking on me.
Your friend is right but it's never an easy thing to hold on to as you wait. Deep down you know it but patience is the hardest part, well that and understanding when you aren't selected or a match fails.
Anyhow...
I'm glad that you are being shown. I forget, is this the first time? I'm assuming so since they don't have your profile. I hope they don't keep you waiting too long let you know if you were chosen.
Debbie,
Yes, it is a little challenge waiting, however, for some reason we are not pressed. When things are right for you they should not be filled with drama, chaos, turmoil, and confusion when God has his hands on it. We want to remain calm, unbiased and in prayer so that we do not loose sight of what He has in store for us.
We are taking a back seat on this one. We are just doing as instructed by turning in our profile.
Yes, this is the first time that we are being shown. Actually, I think there is another potential showing coming up too with similar due dates.
I am not for sure how long they will take to let us know, however, I know in one of the cases the birth parents had not totally decided 100% to make an adoption plan, however since the due date is drawing near, they have move forward with wanting to see profiles according my SW who communicates with the caseworkers for the birth families.
In general, we feel that when something does not work out or if by chance we are not chosen or we do not feel the situation is what we are looking for, it was/is for the best and not in our best interest.
I hate to sound hard, but it is fact of life. After going through things in life, I have learned from my past and when it is right, it is Sweet! I will keep you updated. Thanks for checking on me!
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