When it rains, it pours!!!!
We received a call from our SW today about a baby boy born on Monday of this week at a local hospital. Our SW wanted to know if we wanted to have our profile shown tomorrow to a birthmother who has placed her newborn infant. We were not comfortable with all of the information presented with the birth situation based upon our preferences with background/medical history. In addition, we also informed her of the new person in our home as well. So, our home study will need to be updated due to "little Miss Sunshine" being apart of our home for a while.
We felt that this situation was not the situation for us due to timing and the baby's birth history. I know a little too much with medical things and this contributes to my thought process when I am presented with multiple factors. Things can become so complicated with adoptions and its hard to analyze information at times.
It was not a situation that the agency had been been working with. It was a call from a hospital to the agency. The baby is thriving and doing well, however, we didn't think it was a fit for us for several reasons. I am sure this little baby will be placed with a loving home after the TPR period is up next week. The agency will show profiles on tomorrow for the waiting couples interested. I pray that this baby finds a wonderful forever home.
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Did you say, "When it rain, it pours"? Because you are correct--in that HE pours down HIS blessings as you allow HIM to reign in your life like you have done so far! You did the "Good-thing" called, the "God-thing" by letting him go so that the perfection of what God has planned can be completed. I know your Mother had some wisdom to sit you down with---listen with your heart and keep your face to the SON while it rains!
PS...So glad to see you posting!!!!
Always follow your heart. You did the right thing. You will KNOW your child when you see him/her. I am so glad that you have Little Miss Sunshine to keep you busy.
PS I am sure Ms Sunshine's bedroom will be fly....
Jebena,
You are right. We had to do the right thing and really listen to what God was telling us to do despite what we thought we had going on.
Thank you for such an inspirational comment. This has been a journey! I had been so busy that I did not have time to post before. Things are a little better.
Brenda,
Thanks for visiting again. Yes, we were not comfortable and I did not feel in my hear that this was the situation. Yes, little Miss Sunshine is keeping us busy during all of this!
She is actually in one of our guest rooms that is purple, lavender and creme. I am going to have to change the comforter to preserve it!
She loves her room and bathroom! She is sleeping on grown up furniture and it works for her!
I actually had Black art/paintings in the bedroom already with little girls in paintings.
One of the paintings if not both I purchased while living in NYC at the Brooklyn art festival that comes every summer (back in 2000). I may post a pic of her room another day!
She is very neat and proud of her closet and she puts her shoes away daily into her shoe holder on the inside of her closet door!
So I'm playing catch up reading your blog!! Wow wow wow! God is truly working in your family right now. What a precious blessing you are to "little miss sunshine"
Kristy, my sister passed up a few referrals before accepting one because of the medical history. You'll know when it's right. Stay patient.
Hi Chassidy,
Thanks for stopping by! I have been out of the loop with blogs until recently. Yes, we have a lot going on, however, we are taking it one day at a time. We are still focused!
Angela,
Congratulations to your sister!
Yes, the adoption process is no joke! Many different situations are presented and we have to really be discerning with things presented and not just excited because it is a baby call!
Because I am a medical professional also and specialize in peds and treatment, I am looking at the medical stuff really closely. Some of these babies or shall I say the parents had a lot going on during their pregnancies and puts the babies at risk for a lifetime of illnesses or conditions and special needs. It is really sad. However, we look at each situation differently.
That particular baby and mom tested positive for a serious narcotic that mom admitted to doing two days before going into labor, mom smoked a half pack of cigarettes a day, drank occasionally, and the baby was born a month early, but with a good size.
The doctors say that the baby is thriving and did not appear to have FAS (fetal alcohol syndrome). However, it can be difficult to detect with AA babies, and especially with premies because their features are not totally developed. It was too many what if's for me on this one. However, there are families who wish to adopt special needs or high risk infants and do a great job with them. They are a blessing. That is not my desire at this time, not with knowing the information that I was given.
Expect to be confronted with the unexpected. Your breakthrough however it comes is on the way.
Thanks Kendral. You are right. His timing is different from our timing. You know I am a planner to the "t", however, this has all thrown us for a loop. I am just coasting now. Whatever happens, happens!
As a concerned parent of an adopted child. You might want to be careful what you share about the specific details concerning a certain child. That is someone's child (and as it turns out it is your friends child) and they might not share all those details with a complete stranger. Just use caution before you share it all with the world, since it's not your story to share.
Dear Anonymous,
I decided to share what I wanted to share about why we chose not to be shown. This is all apart of the domestic adoption process, and it was my choice to tell it because it was my blog. It was far from the whole story.
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